Fuck buddies

A ‘fuck buddy’ or ‘sex mate’ is someone you have sex with more often, but without being involved in a (steady) relationship with him. You can have more than one fuck buddy at the same time. Often it begins with a one-night stand, and then you start getting together more often. With a fuck buddy you are more likely to build up more intimacy and trust than you would with a casual sex partner.

Sex and friendship

Fuck buddies aren't necessarily just for sex, of course. You can also do other fun things together, like going out to bars or clubs. People you share both friendship and sex with are also sometimes referred to as 'friends with benefits'. It is possible that you will eventually stop having sex with each other but continue to be friends. It is good to talk about your expectations to prevent any disappointments on either side. 

Fuck buddies and feelings

If you have sex dates with someone on a regular basis and it continues to be fun, it is possible that one of you could develop feelings for the other. Does he want more from you than just sex? Or are you beginning to feel more for him? Discuss that with each other. Tell each other what your expectations are. That way you can keep your sexual relationship fun, without hurting each other's feelings.

Keeping your sex with fuck buddies healthy

Always think together with a steady fuck buddy about how you can keep the sex as healthy as possible. Because you share more trust and intimacy, you are more likely to underestimate the risks. In doing so, you actually run more risk for STIs and HIV without being aware of it. Always fuck with a condom to reduce the risks as much as possible.

Talk with your sex buddy about how you are both keeping the sex you have together healthy. Do you both get tested for HIV and STIs on a regular basis? Do you warn each other if one of you has run a possible risk with a different sex partner?

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