Sex toys

Check first to make sure that silicone-based lube won't damage the toy. Consult the instructions on the packaging or ask the salesperson. Some materials can be damaged or become porous from silicon-based lube. That would cause the toys to wear out more quickly and make them harder to clean. 


Buying sex toys 

You can buy sex toys in sex shops or via the Internet. A disadvantage of buying things online is that you can't feel them first, but online shopping is more anonymous. If you want advice about sex toys, it's best to go to a shop.

Preventing discomfort and accidents

If you have never been fucked, a dildo or buttplug can be a good tool to practice with. Start with a model that isn't too wide. The advantage of a buttplug is that, thanks to its form, it will stay in place once you have inserted it. Use toys or other objects that have a wider rim on the bottom to prevent them from accidentally disappearing inside completely.

Besides excitement and pleasure, toys can also bring health risks. When using kinky sex toys, be careful not to damage to your skin and/or mucus membrane and to avoid cutting off your circulation, suffocating or getting electric shocks. 

Accidents with a dildo or vibrator

Has your dildo disappeared inside you? Squat down and continue breathing calmly.  Put extra lube in your anus and push out lightly as if you were trying to shit. In most cases, the dildo will slide out again naturally. Is the dildo not coming out on its own or is it a vibrating dildo that has slid inside? In that case, go to a hospital to avoid damaging your rectum.

Sharing sex toys

You can use a sex toy on your own, but it can also be exciting to share it with a sex partner. Will you and your sex partner be using the same dildo, buttplug or other anal toy together? In that case, put a condom and plenty of lube on the toy. Change the condom each time you take turns using the toy.  With soap and water, rinse the excess lube from the toy in advance. 

Cleaning sex toys

If you are going to share your sex toys, sterilizing the toys is another way to prevent the transmission of HIV and other STIs. Take the time to sterilize the toys thoroughly. 

  • Clean the toy each time with water and soap. Remove waste or grime and lube.
  • For a thorough cleaning, use one of the following disinfectants: 1-propanolol (available from leather and sex shops), Betadine® or chlorhexidine. Alcohol is not enough.
  • An alternative is to use bleach mixed with water. Mix one part bleach with 10 parts water. Place the toy in the 1:10 bleach solution for one minute, and then rinse the toy off with a lot more plain water.
  • Another option is to boil the sex toy. Lay the toy is a large pan with boiling water and let it cook at the same high temperature for at least three to five minutes. 

The methods for cleaning sex toys mentioned above may seriously damage your toys. Hot water and soap – also in the dishwasher – can damage dildos.

Preventing Hepatitis C

If you and/or your sex partner has HIV, it is even more important to clean your sex toys thoroughly. Hepatitis C is more common among men with HIV and transmitted more easily through the sharing of anal toys. Hepatitis C can remain alive and infectious for weeks outside of the body, for example on sex toys. The careful disinfection of toys will prevent the transmission of Hepatitis C.


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